My New Thing :)

Hey Guys :)

I thought I'd try a new thing, where people Inbox me a problem they have, or something that's upsetting them or on their mind, and I'll include a few of the problems in this blog. I'll offer my views on things and try and help in anyway I can, so here goes!

1.
'I kinda feel like my boyfriend doesn't care about me, he flirts with other girls, doesn't phone me, doesn't text me, nothing, but when I'm with him he's lovely, and when I phone him he talks to me, and he tells me he loves me, I've tried talking to him about it but he just gets angry with me, how do I make him understand that I don't feel like he cares about me and I'm not just being obsessive?'

I'm going to be honest and say I kinda' know how you feel. It's important that you know straight away that you aren't being obsessive. A relationship is a two way thing, and If he's not putting the same effort in as you are then he should expect to be confronted with some questions. It is quite usual to not feel as close to someone when you're not with them, if you know what I mean, but this seems to be quite peculiar. Perhaps there is quite a lot going on with him right now that he's often quite busy most of the time hence the reason why he doesn't phone you or text you, but the time he does get to spend with you does mean a lot to him and that's why things are so amazing, or maybe you just aren't on the same page in this relationship.

My Advice: No matter how much you think you're annoying him, talk to him about it. The key to a working relationship is communication as I'm sure you know. If he says he's fine and there is nothing going on, ask him if this relationship means as much to him as it does to you. It's important to know that a relationship is at the same level of commitment for both people.

2.
'My Nan Which upsets me the most, she has Alzheimer's Disease, and she's slowly forgetting everything, gets confused easily and also very stressed. It's really difficult and extremely upsetting :/'

Disease and Health in family members is never easy. The important thing you should know is that with things like this, you're not alone. Everyone goes through it in their lifetime, so you can almost chat to anyone about it, including me. I know that no matter how much someone tells you 'It's part of getting old' or whatever makes a difference, just because it's normal doesn't make it any less painful. The best thing you can do is try and act yourself around them even if it is killing you inside. The worst thing you can do with things like disease, as I'm sure you know, is treat them like they are different. Just try and enjoy her company as much as possible and don't let it get on top of you. She's still your Nan and always will be, she still means as much to you now as she ever did, let her know that.

My Advice: Try and stay positive. Just speak to her and enjoy her company like you did before she got the disease and things will be much easier.

3.
'So basicals, I think I like someone. They say they like me back but I doubt that it'll happen because of some circumstances. What should I do?'

Crushes always suck, fact. In these sort of 'Pre-relationship' circumstances it's important keep up to date on whether the other person is still 'interested'. As a teenager hormones take control and it's not unusual for feelings toward someone to change on a daily basis. As for these 'circumstances', if you like each other enough then I'm sure that these 'Circumstances' are somewhat insignificant. If you get on amazingly and you are always talking and have a lot in common and you could really see a relationship between you getting somewhere, then go for it. As with most relationships, the likely hood is that it's not for forever, but there is someone for everyone. Take a risk. That's what livings for, isn't it? Do whatever makes you happy.

My Advice: Go for it. If you both like each other and you're a strong couple, then I'm sure there are no 'Circumstances' you can't overcome. Every road in life has it's obstacles, you're the only person that can choose the road you take.

4.
'Whenever I need someone to tell me I'm not an absolute fail, they always let me down. Friends are so shit sometimes, you have the really good ones that you don't get to see that often, then the ones that you spend everyday with are complete let downs. Always chatting about their problems and managing to bounce whenever it's time to hear mine; you just wonder why the fuck you bother.'

Oh haven't we all been there? It's important you realise that pretty much everyone goes through this at some point. Self-esteem is a bitch, isn't it? We've all gone through a state of self doubt, well let me tell you right now, you're not a 'Absolute Fail'. No one is. No matter how much you may feel like giving up, or that you're useless, you're not. Everyone has a purpose. I know you on a personal level and I cannot begin to tell you how much of a legend you are. Sometimes you can't see what it is, but you do have a worth. The 'friends' that don't help you with your problems and give you their full attention when you need someone to talk to aren't friends. 'Nuff Said. Forget about the ones you see every day at school, if they are annoying you and you don't get along just don't talk to them, get your head down and study hard. That's what I did for half a year, not only did I realise who my true friends are, but I got a feeling of 'I'm not a fail, I'm doing really well!' when I saw that all the work I'd been doing in class without disruption of others had made my grades improve massively. The true friends you may rarely see are always worth the wait. Keep that smile on your face, because it makes me happy :)

My Advice: Put the friends that aren't real friends aside, put your work first for a bit and then you will also see who can't live without you and who are your real friends.

I hope I helped guys :) I just told you what I thought :D

Love you!

Until next time
Farewell, or, as everyone in shops in Wales says 'Ta taa now!'

:')

Cheers!

Connor x